Monthly Archives: July 2017

My way or The No way

I remember the first time I stepped in to high school{Kenyan high school}, I wasn’t feel with bright eyed career imagery or a political enthusiastic psyche for the debaters’ club as we watch on TV. no… no… African high schools are different from the worlds, but i can only speak about the Kenyan ones. well… some of them,… okay just the one I was in.

The idea of a career was not even in my mind as Form 1 student. I was all about how to survive in that place. Bullying is a sensitive subject both to victims and perpetrators around the world. In the school that I was in, bullying happened to be in it and yes, several of us juniors did get to experience such “ritualistic” activities as am sure bullying happens in all places, be it at work, home, school, church. Back in primary school, I heard rumors about how bad a person is bullied and that may as well have put the fear of God in me. So education or rather passing my exam was not really in mind at the time. I was more worried about how i would the night would be handled if the seniors felt frisky. There is always some person who will feel bigger and better than some other person and will always try to make the “lesser” person feel the difference repeatedly. And sometimes in an excruciatingly memorable way.

But as we, the students, went on our daily unnecessary chores given to us by the seniors, something seemed to have hit the back of my mind but it wasn’t clear until one night, a senior (Form 3) that i had befriend said to me ” Cheki buda, maisha ni ya… yako, ukiacha msee akufikirie au akukazie maisha kila saa… you’ll have a hard time in life. Mtu nikujisot, no one will help you. So will you continue being pushed over or will you start to learn how to survive this school. I can’t fight your every battle.”

To sum it all up, he basically said that I shouldn’t be a victim. That I should learn how to turn thing to my advantage, or I’ll  find myself in avoidable situations playing victim. And that’s what I did, I had to cause nothing became any easier afterwards but that’s a long story. Point is I was able grasp the knowledge of how to deal with people and I use those skill to date. Am not saying that bullying was a good thing for me, it just showed me that the world is not all apples and roses. sometimes you get pepper or a Venus flytrap. This world wants you on your knees, so you have to decide whether to stay down or fight your way above it.

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